A Few (Dating) Updates

Updates on the world of dating.  

Guy D is turning out to be... Pretty awesome.  I'll talk about that more in a bit.

I stopped talking to Guy B.  He's a nice guy and I really enjoyed talking to him.  But Guy B is the one who lived in another state.  And he really likes living there, and I really like living here.  So, had to end it.

Guy C really did turn out to be a scam artist, since my last post about him I haven't heard a thing from him.  And the profile I found disappeared after I confronted him about it.  I really don't understand why there are people who do that.  Well, I do, we live in a fallen world.

And now back to Guy D. 

Before I signed up, well actually earlier this year, or maybe it was last year.  I really should have written a date on my paper, but I made a list of things I would not compromise on.

For example:

1.  Has to be a Christian 
2.  Loves kids 
3.  No smoking
4.  No drinking
5.  No drugs

There are more, but you get an idea.  I've went over the list and Guy D hits every single thing on my list.  It is stunning actually.

We've known each other for about a month, and I've seen him in person a few times.  He really is a nice guy, and I think about him a lot.  We talk a lot.  I rarely go on my account on the dating site.  I mainly go on it since I paid the money for it, but I don't browse, I haven't for awhile.

We shall see what happens next.

Unexpected Sundays

Today, I had an unexpected date.  My kids went to my dads for a party.  I planned on going after church, so I was still at home getting ready. 

And then, I was talking to Guy D, and he mentioned that he would like to visit the church I go to.  So I told him, sure I dont mind him coming to my church.  He also said that it would be great to get to meet me at church.

And I said:

"Well, today would be perfect since I don't have the kids today."

So, he came to my church today.  After church, we got lunch.  I had a really good time, and I think he did too. 

Surprises

So, Guy D.

Well, he responded that he understood my apprehension and that there isn't a rush.  He also bought a membership since he was on a free trial, so that he could still talk to me on the site.

What do I think of this?

I am pleasantly surprised.

He is also a child sponsor through Compassion International, and I think that is so cool.  I kind of wrote him a semi-long email about my compassion children.  I was a little excited to share.

He is in his 40s, and lives about 45 miles south east from Fenton, Mi.

He asked me to go out to a Christian concert July 29, 2012.  I told him I would go with him.   He is taking me out to dinner and to the concert. 

Day 6 of Cleaning The Body

Moving along!!

Heart Beats For...

I was dumped.  

I was talking to this guy (Guy A only because I "met" him first) on the dating site, and he sent me a mail saying how he has to stop talking to me, and how he was talking to someone else.  

I was a bit surprised by the mail, since we never talked about getting together and I was trying to encourage him in some areas in his life.  But that's how it goes sometimes.  *shrugs*

Some interesting news, someone new (Guy D) asked me on a date.  Shocker, I know right.  I flaked out tho.  I was like:

"Oh dear, I would love to go on a date with you, but I'm so scared."

Well, that's a bit of an exaggeration, but I did mention that it has been a long time since I was on a date (3 years).  

I don't know if I will go on the date, there is a guy (Guy B) I have been talking to that I really enjoy talking to and learning about.  I love the way he loves his kids.  The only downfall is he lives in another state.  And I am not sure I would be willing to take the kids out of a place they have always known to live somewhere else.  And I wouldn't expect him or ask him to take his kids out of a place they have always known to live somewhere else either.  So...  Not sure what is going on there. 

In the case of Guy C (who also happens to be the scam artist), the profile disappeared, and I talked to him briefly today.  I really want to see if he is actually going to come see me.  He says that he is going to come visit me for 4 weeks.  I am doubtful, a lot of what he says is very out there.  But, I really am curious to see what lengths he will go. 

Day 4 of Cleaning The Body

STILL DOING IT!!!  But I ate a cupcake today!!  Oh No!

Healthy Body Vs. Cupcakes, And Stuff

I made the mistake of buying cupcakes today.  They look so yummy.  So yummy.  I gave one to my son, and some frosting was on my fingers so I licked them. 

MMMMMMMMM Heaven!!

I'd take a picture of these delicious sweet treats, but then I would have to look at them more.  And that would just be too tempting.

Day 2 of Cleaning The Body. 

Things are going well?  I dont know, I dont feel sickly.  I've been drinking a lot of water.  SO much water, I feel like there's a pool in my belly.  (not really)

This might be too gentle of a program.  I really don't eat that much crap, I've been cutting out a lot of the grease and sweets.  So we'll see how this goes, since this is only Day 2.

Dating... I might have ran into a scam artist.  I found another profile of this guy I am talking to, same everything, but with some slight differences.  I really dont know what entertainment someone would get out of pretending to be something/somebody else. 

I did mention it to him. 

"So, I found an interesting profile on the dating site."

"Really, please tell me about it."

"There was someone on there that looks just like you but with some differences."

"Not me, of course."

We shall see, my dear... We shall see!  

I really want to sponsor another child.  I've been thinking about it for a few days.  There are just so many children who need help, and I want to help them all. 

The Dating Scene

How am I liking "the dating scene"?

I could take it or leave it, to be perfectly honest.

Not that I've been on any dates, because I haven't.  I have briefly talked to a few men.  And my nerdness comes out because I made an excel spreadsheet (hilarious I know) on the guys, and my thoughts on them.

Some have been nice to talk to, some have been weird to talk to, and some have made me wonder what the heck am I doing on this site. 

Some questions I have asked myself:

Would I be willing to uproot my children out of everything they know to move?
Would I be willing to deal with more baggage from someone's past?
Would I be willing to become a stepmom (again)?
How would my children feel if there were other children in the family?

The answers are unknown at this moment, and I know there will be many more questions.

Dating

So I've been a member to the dating site for a week.  I started on a trial membership, but decided I would give it 6 months.  So I paid for a 6 month membership.  I know that look you have on your face, I have the same one on mine. 

Why?  Who?  How?  WhatWasIThinking?!  And when words don't cut it, I feel the Tasmanian Devil has the right idea.  Spinning and just making incoherent sounds. 

Like so! 

On the site, I've seen a lot of this:

I'm sorry but I'm not interested in someone who is divorced.

That was the most polite comment on the whole "no divorced people" requirement to chat.  And the more I see it, I'm just like wow really guys?  Not everyone is blessed with a happy marriage with compromising loving partners. 

There is a lot of stigma that comes with someone who is divorced.  I never wanted to get one, and I surely never dreamed I would get a divorce.  I don't believe in divorce.  But the events that lead to my divorce were... unfortunate.  

On the positive side, I have conversed with some nice men.  Maybe two, if I have to be honest.  There aren't that many guys knocking on my "door". 

I'm okay with that. 

Oh NO!

Well...................

I signed up for a dating site.

Blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah.  I don't know how I feel about it yet.  I'm not even sure why I signed up!!!

What was I thinking?!? 

Thing is, I don't know if I really wanna meet someone.  I know it's in my heart to be married.  But I was kinda hoping I would blink and then magically I'd be married.  Ridiculous I know!!

But.

Oh.

My.

Goodness....

*bangs head on desk*

What did I do?!